About Us
Our love story
We were way past the typical age deadline for finding Soulmate Love
Throughout the time we’ve been together, we’ve had many long uncomfortable conversations and explorations into realms of our inner selves we’d rather keep hidden. One of our commitments to each other has been to radical honesty – not just honesty about what we’re doing or wanting – but honesty about the deepest, often darkest, emotions, fears, and concerns we have. As a result, we have found our relationship to be a place of the deepest healing and emotional and spiritual growth, and we are deliriously happy together.
Our prayers for our greatest intimate love have been answered, and it’s clear to us that our purpose is now to help similar prayers of others be answered, through inspiration at a distance or in-person coaching or training.
Dennis’ Story
My life was the envy of many of my friends and acquaintances.
I had sold my successful Real Estate Internet Marketing Company for big bucks, I had started and was enjoying the benefits of owning and running a fun, fruitful and exciting vacation rental business in California and Mexico and was (or so I thought) happily married to my wife of 35 years. And most importantly to me, I had a deep relationship with my Spiritual Master, Adi Da Samraj, and a spiritual practice that spanned 45 years.
Then everything started to unravel. Adi Da died, our beautiful house on 5 acres just north of Napa Valley, CA, and filled with a 40-year collection of Asian religious antiques, burned to the ground while we were away.
We lost everything. Shortly after that, my wife asked for a divorce. At 75 my life was in shambles. I could not believe that so much of what I valued and thought was lasting so quickly disappeared.
Thank God I had a strong spiritual practice which allowed me to recognize that life gives you lessons and challenges for your growth and development. I felt in my heart that a lot needed to be cleared out from my life, both psychically and psychologically, so something greater could emerge. Of course, at first this was a shock, but I quickly realized that I would have to create an entirely new life at the late age of 75.
First, I began to examine all the ways that I was responsible for the divorce. What did I do and not do that led to the destruction of our 35-year relationship? It was a profound wakeup call and very humbling. I realized that regardless of my ex-wife’s relationship patterns, I needed to deeply feel and understand the many limitations I embodied. This was not easy but very necessary, and I valued seeing, understanding, and releasing my own unconscious behaviors.
Luckily, this process clarified the changes I needed to make in myself and what was required of me to be a truly loving partner in the future. Once this occurred, I knew and felt deep down that I was ready for and really wanted to find the greatest love relationship of my life. I also felt it could happen quickly. I envisioned what that relationship would look and feel like on all levels – emotionally, intellectually, spiritually, and sexually. And I threw myself into the search for such a relationship with intense dedication and determination.
Within 6 months, I had met and was falling deeply in love with the woman of my dreams – Ellen Eatough, my soulmate – the most wonderful person I have ever met, who satisfies my deepest desires in intimacy, adventure, happiness, and continuous personal and spiritual growth – all of which is far greater than anything I could have ever imagined. It is a wonder that amazes me daily.
Relatively early on in our new relationship, we both recognized that the depth and enjoyment we were experiencing was not just to be for ourselves but was to be used in service to others. We realized that profound depth, growth, and enjoyment was truly possible even late in life. And now we want to help others find and experience profound all-encompassing intimacy.
Ellen’s Story
All my adult life, I’ve wanted to understand and experience what makes intimate relationship truly fulfilling – and potentially a path for personal and spiritual growth.
This was apparent from my earliest love connection, though it would be decades before I could articulate it. But it was a motivating force in my life.
Since 1991, I’ve been a sexual healer and intimacy coach with the goal of helping others experience sexual-spiritual fulfillment.
I was married for 20 years and raised two sons, now married with children.
In my late 60s, I’m thinking, “If I want to find my last great love and life partner, I better get busy!” So, I jump into online dating.
I’m looking for a man who is wise, fun, and has the capacity for deep emotional intimacy. And I want the ultimate sexual/spiritual relationship!
Naturally, I want chemistry, but after going on lots of first dates, I’m getting nowhere.
So I take a new approach: Even if I don’t feel initial “chemistry” with a guy, if he has any potential, I’ll go on at least four dates with him, and see if the attraction grows. Besides, it takes this long to determine if he has the most important qualities I seek.
Well, I go on at least 4 dates with 12 different high-quality men. Yes, 12 great guys!
I have a great time dating and discovering interesting people and places while learning more about what I really want in a man and the kind of relationship that would satisfy my deepest desires at this stage of my life. As I do, I keep telling my friends I’m ready for love and updating my online dating profile to call him in. But, I still haven’t found “The One.”
Determined, I go to an Ayahuasca healing ceremony. I drink the brew and ask for help finding my Soulmate.
After a few visions, the medicine says, “The key is vulnerability – But you have to go first!”
“What?! I don’t want to be vulnerable first! Let him go first! Then, I’ll be vulnerable.”
Soon after, I’m meeting a man for a first date at this outdoor Italian restaurant. Sitting across the table from him, I think, “He’s not my body type. He’s pretty handsome, though, and very interesting. But romantic attraction? Nnnn..o.”
Yet something’s clearly going on. Our waiter, Patricio, is flitting around like a cupid bringing us free wine tasting and free tiramisu.
And I’m thinking, “Wouldn’t it be fun if this becomes something, and we come back here to celebrate our 1-year anniversary?”
Within 3 months, I’m totally in love with this man. Dennis is everything I wanted. He’s deeply spiritual, emotionally wise, fun, passionate…and so much more!
And he tells me, “Your vulnerability was what initially attracted me.”
When more raging forest fires bring thick smoke to northern California, we rent a little RV and head to the coast for some clean air and outdoor recreation. But the smoke follows us. And we’re stuck inside this RV for 4 days!
On the 2nd day, we’re talking about creating our life together. Then, we start kissing and… I get this vision… while we’re kissing.
It’s Dennis’s deceased spiritual master. But here he is, sitting in lotus position, visiting me!
He says, “You have to be open to all possibilities, including possibilities beyond anything you’ve imagined. You have to think much bigger!” What does this mean?
After we’re living together, we’re lying in bed feeling very grateful for our extraordinary life. And BOOM! I get another download from the universe: “This relationship is not just for you. You need to share this with the world!”
Well, OK!
Now, we help older growth-oriented singles and couples create and enjoy the greatest love of their lives…
…all toward our mission to “Uplift Humanity – One Conscious Loving Couple at a Time.”
Side note:
We do return to that Italian restaurant on our anniversary. We asked for Patricio, but he’s a wine distributor who only worked as a waiter there during CoVid.
As luck would have it, he happened to be having dinner there with his pregnant wife on that very evening. We had a lovely conversation, and he definitely remembered us and had sensed our future relationship.
Our Bios
a little more about each of us
About Ellen Eatough
My desire to help heal the personal and pervasive cultural “wound” that typically splits our sexuality and our spiritual lives has motivated my work for the past 30 years.
My dream is to help us all cultivate the powerful energies of sexuality and an undefended heart so we can fully experience our divine nature in all of life.
To this end, I’ve spent many years researching and training in ancient sacred lovemaking and spiritual traditions, contemporary psychology, and interpersonal communication skills. Gradually, my goal expanded to include helping people move toward more fulfilling intimate relationships.
Since almost 30 years before I met Dennis, I’ve been a sex and intimacy coach and sexual healer, known as “The Soulful Sex Coach.” In 2000 I founded Extatica.com: The Way to an Erotic, Ecstatic Love Life.
A unique aspect of my work with private clients is the use of subtle energy tools, including colored light, to help release sexual and relationship wounding and clear cultural inhibitions that thwart intimacy and dampen natural sexual expression. I also use vibrational frequencies in some of my products, like my “Love Unbound” Music for Better Sex infused with Auditory Pheromones® to stimulate passion, deepen open-hearted intimacy, and enhance spiritual connection during lovemaking.
I’m now thrilled to be working with Dennis on all you see on our web site here. I feel that together we’re going beyond my prior work to the next level of service.
I’m a certified hypnotherapist with a master’s degree in East-West Psychology from the California Institute for Integral Studies. I’m also a trained practitioner in many energetic and somatic modalities, including:
- Biofeedback
- Body Talk®
- Colored Light Therapy
- Brief Strobic Photostimulation
- Instant Miracle Mastery, Levels I, II and III
In my current and prior careers and businesses I’ve been a speaker on network television, hosted radio shows and taught numerous workshops on various topics, including expanding women’s role in the workplace, innovative commuter ride-sharing, home buying and selling, and creating more fulfilling relationships.
An avid yoga practitioner, I also love dancing and doing most anything that involves interacting with nature, like hiking, white-water rafting, kayaking, skiing, and swimming in lakes or a tropical ocean bay.
I live with my beloved life partner, Dennis, am grateful to have very close relationships with my two married sons, and have two young granddaughters.
About Dennis Duff
In 1970 I experienced a crisis in consciousness when I recognized the futility of the usual goals, aspirations, and attainments that others seek.
The American Dream seemed vacuous. And a great despair overcame me. Amid this despair, I came across a spiritual biography that changed the course of my life.
From that moment I threw myself into meditation, the study of spiritual wisdom and a comprehensive examination of relationship, health, and healing practices – all of which I continue to investigate to this day.
In 1973 I met my Spiritual Master, Adi Da Samraj, who became and continues to be even after His passing 14 years ago, the Source and inspiration of my life. Throughout my 50-year spiritual practice the following life expressions have unfolded:
- Lived in an Ashram for 20+ years, serving as Head Priest, Ashram Manager and Director of Outreach and a patron.
- Was an international speaker, seminar leader, and coach on spiritual principles, sexuality and intimacy, diet and health, hatha yoga, meditation, emotional healing, prosperity principles and money.
- Currently an entrepreneur and was the co-director of a health and healing center and the owner and CEO of two multi-million-dollar companies.
- Have wide and varied interests and enjoyments. Was an international ski racer, ski instructor, photographer, video producer, radio DJ, and religious Asian art collector.
- Currently enjoy skiing, biking, motorcycle riding, skating, kayaking, hiking, dancing, swimming, and backpacking. I’m a music lover, particularly jazz and blues and play the blues harmonica.
I’ve lived in Europe and the Fiji Islands, but call California my home. I thoroughly love spending time in nature.
I am ecstatically living with my life partner, Ellen, and am very close with my daughter and her family in the San Francisco Bay Area.